July 31, 2008

Life Happens...

It's been so crazy lately. Work has been intense, and I started training the new girl on Wednesday. I won't go into details, but I was pretty drained. The AC at our house, which we thought was fixed, has been acting up again, and this time we're calling someone different (this will be the third attempt at fixing it in about 4 days). I was in the dressing room of a store today and discovered what looked like the beginnings of stretch marks and about burst into tears right there. Yes, I'm aware that being pregnant is a miracle and I promise I'm not a vain person. It was just one more thing and made me feel insecure. At times like this you just need people to say "I understand" and not try to give you the reasons why you shouldn't care about stretch marks, or whatever those things are on my body. Does that make sense? Also, in the last few days I've been told by several people, "I didn't show until I was 6 months pregnant! You shouldn't need maternity clothes. If your thighs are skinny enough you can still wear your normal jeans." (Yes, this was said to me.)

Anyway, enough complaining...I don't like to be a complainer! On the bright side, I have a breakfast casserole cooking for dinner, and I was a good Samaritan at the grocery store today. I saw an older woman crying by an ice machine and asked an employee to check on her and help her. I saw them take care of her, and that made me happy. I'm not sure what was wrong, but they wouldn't have noticed if I hadn't said anything. So I at least accomplished a good deed today :o)

I've been missing my family recently. I talked to my sister today about college. Trying to help her pack over the phone is hard! Also, I keep checking up on my little brother to see if he's registered for classes....I want to know what he's taking! And my little sister is probably really happy because they got TV the other day, and internet is coming tomorrow :o) I miss not having my parents nearby. It was such a security thing. However, I do think it's interesting that Kurt and I have gone through the AC being broken, kitchen appliances not working, and other things after my family moved. We have definitely bonded this week. :o)

It looks like we'll be going to Ripley to see Kurt's family in a few weekends, and we have a marriage conference at our church that I'm looking forward to. I figure that as a young married couple about to have our first child, this is a good time to re-evaluate things and spend time together. Of course, I'm sure there will be a visit to my family in September sometime. :o)

Everyone have a great evening!

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Kristal said...

Ugh, people can be so rude - especially when it comes to pregnancy. Why does every suddenly think they can say anything and you won't be offended?!

Just a little something to make you feel better - you know my mom? You know how skinny she is? Well, she started showing at 8 weeks and gained more than 50 pounds. Every single pregnancy is different, so don't let others get you down. :(

Mrs. Langhans said...

From this new mom to a mom to be, I completely understand how you feel! Hang in there and know I am praying for you and your precious baby! If you want a totally "tongue and cheek" book about pregnancy that will lift your spirits, check out Jenny McCarthy's book "Belly Laughs." It is a raw take on pregancy, but it will totally make you laugh!

Carrie and David said...

Oh, I totally understand about the stretch marks! I'm covered in them and I absolutely hate them! And I agree that people can be so rude. I had a lady tell me last night that she did NOT think I was going to make it 7 more weekss. I told her I was measuring right on track, and she said "Well you must be having a BIG baby!" I try to laugh it off, but it's so hard. Just know you're not alone. I had already bought maternity clothes before I was in my second trimester.

Tiffany said...

Who in the world lost all their manners and good sense- to make such snotty remarks to you? This is a very special time in a woman's life, but it can also be very over-whelming. I mean your hormones are going crazy, sometimes your on top of the world, other times you're so sick as a dog-you're praying for the energy and strength just to get up and move, your body is changing faster than you can keep up with it (and I don't mean just weight gain...)UUUUGGGGGG! Some people! So, you may have had the perfect pregnancy (w/ the minimum amount of weight gain and no stretch marks)- GOOD FOR YOU! This is not about you- you had your special time this is mine-thank you very much!-that's what you should tell them! (I'm sorry- stuff like this puts me in a mood- can you tell?)- I am, most of the time, a really positive, encouraging person. But since you are in no mood to "look at the bright side of stretch marks," hee-hee, I am happy to say that I know where you are comming from. I will never wear a 2 piece swim suit again- no matter how much weight I lose. No - not going to happen. I've heard that coco butter and olive oil helps. You just do what you need to in order to take good care of yourself and bee-bee. And if you need to start wearing maternity clothes to stay comfortable and cute in the process- then you just do that! And surround yourself w/ positive people who do care about you and support you!~Blessings

Gator Mommy said...

I'm right there with you Ashley! I have lovingly given myself the nickname of "blue lightning" because my entire belly is horrible and Jonah has added dramatically to the situation.

I do have a tip on the maternity clothes. This time I have discovered the love of the "Secret Fit Belly" (I know they are sold at Motherhood). In the beginning, you can fold the panel down for a low rise and now just a few days before delivery they are the most comfortable clothes I have!

Don't let people get you down, there is nothing more beautiful than a pregnant woman!

Katrice said...

Pregnant women DO NOT sleep in houses with hormonal AC units!!! ha! I have extra beds...come here! :)

The Clark Family said...

Well, if you think the comments are rude & inappropriate NOW, you're in for a treat in late pregnancy. I was asked regularly if I was gonna pop or if I was having twins. I gained almost 50 pounds each time--and yes, I have LOTS of stretch marks.

So, I understand!

Christy said...


Okay,that is SO stupid that someone would SAY that!!!

I was in maternity clothes when I was twelve weeks pg with LG and my thighs were thin because I was a stupid size zero when I got pg with her!! With Layton I was in maternity clothes when I was four months pg because it took my belly forever to show BUT believe me, my thighs sure did get bigger!!! I had to buy bigger and bigger jeans because of my butt and thighs NOT because of my waist! Pregnancy just does that! no matter who you are you get bigger all over and the NERVE of someone to SAY that to you!

Okay...taking deep breaths...

The stretch mark thing-I used Cocoa Butter, Palmers is really good and I used it day and night. it did help some. I know how you feel and I am sorry that other people's stupidity hasn't helped.

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