The author, Vicki Courtney, is now one of my absolute favorite people. In this book (her most recent), she gives 5 conversations that are essential to have with your daughter. I picked up this book at Lifeway not long after I found out Evy was going to be a girl, and I'm so glad I did!
Here are the 5 Conversations:
-You are more than the sum of your parts.
-Don't be in such a hurry to grow up.
-Sex is great, and worth the wait.
-It's okay to dream about marriage and motherhood.
-Girls gone wild are a dime a dozen; dare to be virtuous.
I try to read books from varied authors, because it challenges my way of thinking and forces me to say, 'Yes I agree with that' or 'No, that's not what I believe.' One of the books that I'm currently finishing up is by a man who is a tad more legalistic in his thinking (to be fair, his book covers many topics, not just parenting). What I love about Vicki is how balanced she is. She's the closest author I've read that is most similar to me (as far as I can tell). Here's why.
There are some parents and parenting experts that promote totally separating our children from the culture we live in. As in, homeschooling, strictly monitoring TV and computer, dressing extremely conservatively...you get the idea. While for some people these are great options and what they feel convicted to do, Vicki offers practical advice for Christian parents who don't feel led to do the whole "COMPLETELY separate" thing. [DISCLAIMER: I am not necessarily opposed to these things. I am referring to EXTREME cases of legalism.]
Vicki is basically saying that Christian kids are going to be influenced by the culture in some capacity. If Christian parents really want to influence their children and also impact them for Christ, they need to be aware of the culture, i.e. Myspace, Facebook, ipods, etc. I agree with this approach. How can you relate to your child and what they're going through if you're constantly turning your back to what's really going on? Vicki's ministry is all about promoting relational parenting, because it is essential in order to really impact kids in their formative years.
These conversations are excellent, and Vicki's personal story is incredibly moving. If you have a daughter, think you might eventually have a daughter, or are just interested in what Vicki has to say, read this book. I know I will reference it for years to come.
Check out Vicki's website and resources. There's also a link to her in my blog list on the left. Happy reading!